Blog Quiz

Results of your
Romantic Attachment Quiz

Based upon your answers, it appears that you tend to be more closed and to withhold your feelings in relationships with others. This is not necessarily a problem. But if you are having difficulties, they will most likely be in these areas:

• Your partner may complain that you don't let them in, that you don't feel emotionally available
• You may find that relationships may start out fine but deteriorate because you won't take the risks necessary to deepen the relationship
• You may have trouble making long-term commitments that require intimacy

Any distress this behavior may cause you depends on how strongly you opt for avoidance rather than anxiety. Avoidance, after all, is healthy and necessary to maintain your autonomy, self esteem and safety. Its may be good to avoid possible partners when your instincts tell you that they are dangerous.

There is also a self-balancing system involved in any relationship. The person who avoids the risks of intimacy, for instance, may be able to learn about the joys of intimacy from the anxious person who worries about losing the relationship. Similarly the anxious person may benefit from appreciating the avoidant person's naturally well-developed sense of autonomy.

Your romantic attachment style: Fearful and Shy

You have described yourself as fearfully attached. This suggests that compared to others, you may be a little introverted and find it hard to speak up for yourself. You probably find it a little difficult to become romantically involved because of your concern about getting out there and the possibility of getting hurt. You're likely experience shyness a bit more strongly than others do, and that helps make you stick close to home. You may feel less self confident than other people. For some people who are a bit fearful, this is just fine. However, for others, this orientation can be a problem. If you feel you are fearful in your romantic involvements, but would like to become less so, you may find that you will benefit from assertiveness training. This is a form of training in which you are gradually challenged to stick up for yourself more, to become more active in going after what you want in life, in all domains. The challenge is gradual to avoid turning off the training before it can help you. And the rewards are strong. Remember that attachment styles exist in degrees, and in this test, the degree to which a style is true for you will make a difference in your interpretation. Everyone has to have some style or another, and the features of any one style only become maladaptive when they exist in the extreme.

Take the exam here.

Dear Me

Haller, how are you? Just wanted to take a reality check on you.... Hmm... buhay ka pa jan? Hehe. Life has been a tough one for you. Three years of trying to mend your heart.. thats quite long.. err mali.. ang tagal nun! =) I know its been hard. Youve spent nights of endless crying.. kaya nga nagkaganyan mata mo.. para ka nang eyebags na tinubuan ng mukha.. san ka pa?! ^^ Ilang moments yung napapatulala ka na lang sa isang tabi at maalala mo ang inyong mga sandali.

"Namulat ako at ngayo'y nag-iisa...Pagkatapos ng ulan...Bagama't nakalipas na ang mga sandali... Ay nagmumuni kung ako'y nagwagi...Pinipilit mang sabihin na ito'y wala sa akin...Ngunit bakit hanggang ngayon, nagdurugo pa rin.... Sa kanya pa rin babalik sigaw, ng damdamin...Sa kanya pa rin sasaya, bulong ng puso ko..Kung buhay pa ang alaala ng ating nakaraan...Ang pagmamahal at panahon alay pa rin sa kanya.... "

Kumanta na naman si Juriz. Naalala mo nun.. kapag tinutugtog yan.. you cant help but cry and feel bitter. Hmm sa kanya nga ba pa ren? Grabeh yung feeling noh.. yung kahit san ka magpunta.. sa malls.. sa church.. sa street nyo... kahit nga sa bahay molang.. nakikita mo sha... nafifeel mo ang presence nya.... at nasasaktan ka. How many birthdays na sa side ng relatives nya ang pinalampas mo kasi you dont want to see him. Last time na you visited their place... andun den ung wife nya.. dibah nagsikip dibdib mo. Funny nga because when she arrived, all the people there became quiet.. parang they felt the tension and alam nila na nasasaktan kayo pareho. Nakaka- miss si Angel no yung pamangkin niya na lage sinasabe ... "Tita Marielle sana kayo na lang ni Uncle nagasawa.. Tita Marielle mahal ka pa rin ni Uncle..." hayyzz...


But past is past. Debah we shouldnt linger too much about the past. We should learn from it. We live for the present and look forward for the future that lies ahead.

You've spent too much time crying sa past mo. Its time na I move on. Kaya now, this is my song for you:

Used to be that I believed in something
Used to be that I believed in love
It's been a long time since I've had that feeling
I could love someone
I could trust someone
I said I'd never let nobody near my heart again darlin'
I said I'd never let nobody in

But if you asked me to
I just might change my mind
And let you in my life forever
If you asked me to
I just might give my heart
And stay here in your arms forever
If you asked me to
If you asked me to

Somehow ever since I've been around you
Can't go back to being on my own
Can't help feeling darling since I've found you
That I've found my home
That I'm finally home
I said I'd never let nobody get too close to me darling
I said I needed, needed to be free

(But if you asked me to)

Asked me to, I will give my world to you baby
I need you now
Ask me to and I'll do anything for you baby, for you baby

If you asked me to
I'd let you in my life forever
If you asked me to

Yes you read it right. Thats my song for you because I think you are ready to start a new chapter in your life right now. I just wish you wont make that mistake again. I hope and pray you have found the right one. Listen to your heart this time. Youve come a long way and you deserve to be happy.

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*

Happy and B-u-s-o-g!


Last night we had dinner at the best Sisig Place in Pasig, the Aysees (just beside Cityland Village). We are supposed to meet at the office para sasabay ako sa kanila eh alam nyo naman kabagal ko kumilos debah... so ayun usapan na 6pm nasa office na.. paalis pa lang ako ng house nun 6 hehe. So I was already in MRT when Sir Tj called me up. I should take the cab na lang daw from Ortigas. So I freaked out. Im not used to taking cabs in that area. Bute na lang the driver of the cab I had was not an abusadong taxi driver ehehe. Scary. Nakakaparanoid kasi yung mga driver na mukhang holdaper hehe. Saya nga kwentuhan kame nung manong. Muntik ko na makwento buong buhay ko.. bute na lang malapit lang ung Aysees from MRT Ortigas.

So I arrived there. Nakahinga ako maluwag. Bute naman di mahirap hanapin... hindi n ako mamromroblema. Ekkkkkkkk! Huhuhuh. Akala ko wala na problema.... Yun pala meron pa. Tagal nilang dumating. I was waiting for 30 mins! Yung boy dun sama na ng tingin sakin... iniisip p ata na gawin akong sisig. Hayyy... checking on the clock every now and then. Sa wakas dumating sila! Yipee!!!!


The best sisig experience! Panget lang dito ung napaso ako huhuhuh. Katakawan ko kumaen ayun napaso ako sa sizzling plate ang saket. Nonetheless its an experience not to be missed.... Yummy! See photos below:

Im the "Ice Bucket Girl" for the night - serbidora ng ice in short! Hehe.

With Mommy Lel na babambohin ka. Di kame mahilig sa pics. =)



Lovely girls on the floor. Sige umangal gulpe!



Ganda namen. Hehe.



Paalis na. Katabaan no! =)



Last shot!

I wanna ride that bus..

Lifted from email.

You know, love is just like someone waiting for a bus.

When the bus comes, you look at it and you say to yourself "No.... so full....cannot sit down. I'll wait for the next one".

So you let the bus go and waited for the second bus.

Then the second bus came, you looked at it you say,"No...this bus is so old ...so shabby!"

So you let the bus go and again, decided to wait for the next bus.

After a while another bus came, it's not crowded, not old but you said, "No... not air-conditioned ...better wait for the next one".

So again you let the bus go and decided to wait for the next bus.

Then the sky started to get dark as it is getting late.

You panicked and jumped immediately inside the next bus. It is not until much later that you found out that you had boarded the wrong bus! So you wasted your time and money waiting for what you want! Even if an air-conditioned bus comes, you can't ensure that the air-conditioned bus won't break down or whether or not the airconditioner will be too cold for you.

So people... wanting to get what you want is not wrong. But it wouldn't hurt to give other person a chance, right? If you find that the "bus" doesn't suit you just press the red button and get off the bus! (as simple as that!)

Hey who said life is fair??? The best thing to do is be observant and open while you scrutinize the bus. If it doesn't suit you, get off.

But you must always have an extra something which you could use for the next bus that comes...
But wait........

I'm sure you have this experience before...


You saw a bus coming (the bus you want, of course) you flagged it but the driver acted as if he did not see you and zoomed pass you! It just wasn't meant for you!

The bottom line is, being loved is like waiting for a bus you want. Getting on the bus and appreciating the bus by giving it a chance depends totally on you. If you haven't made any choice, WALK!

Walking is like being out of love.


The good side of it is you can still choose any bus you want... the rest who couldn't afford another ride would just have to be content with the bus they rode on, ugly or not.

One more thing.... sometimes its better to choose a bus you are already familiar with rather than gamble with a bus that is unfamiliar to you. But then again, life wouldn't be complete without the risks involved.

BUT THERE'S ONE BUS THAT I FORGOT TO TELL YOU ABOUT - THE BUS THAT YOU DON'T HAVE TO WAIT FOR ...

IT WILL JUST STOP ON ITS OWN AND WILL ASK YOU TO COME INSIDE AND TAKE A FREE RIDE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE...

You Never Lose By Loving .... You Always Lose By Holding Back…

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BAKIT TAYO NAGMAMAHAL?!

why do we love ba?
so we can have somebody to talk to?
someone who can be there pag gusto natin gumala?

a person na pwedeng manlibre satin?
taong magbibitbit ng gamit mo?

ALALAY for short!

eh pano kung di ka nya mahal?
would you still love him/her?
would you still continue to care for that person?

bakit naman hinde?

you didnt love that person para magkaroon ka ng alalay,
magkaroon ka ng instant meal dahil libre,
taong gagawa ng assignments mo or projects,
or taong mahihila mo if you want to go out...

if thats what you think about love well sorry
ang BABAW mo!

loving a person doesn't need to have a criteria na dapat maganda o guwapo,
dapat mabait or understanding,
kasi once you fall inlove you take the risk of accepting dat person
kahit maingay sya matulog, yung hilik ng hilik
kahit matakaw sya o sobrang fat na hindi kayo kasya pag puno ang jeep!
kahit sobrang moody nya na kulang nalang ay sapakin mo sa inis!
yung sobrang selosa/seloso na pati barkada pinagseselosan..
badtrip diba?
and yung napaka-arte OA kung baga!
o kahit ano pang things
that would turn you off...

hirap tlaga magmahal trying to be PERFECT kase gusto mong magtagal
pero hindi yun ang sagot sa lahat...

ACCEPTING the real person fully

kase if you said na mahal mo sya you dont need to find answers
kung bakit mo sya mahal...
kase lahat ng tao nagbabago but if you accept that person
magbago man sya in the middle of your relationship
hindi ka masasaktan kase you know that darating din yun..
tsaka tanggap mo sya ng buo...

mahirap gawin pero masarap subukan dahil
wala ng sasaya pa if you let one person feel na
MAHAL NA MAHAL mo sya without asking 4 anything return...

then you can say wow un pla ang

LOVE!

One Sleepy Day in the Office

spell your name backward
> elleiram

story behind your first name:
> walang story name ko eh....

when’s your birthday:
> June 28, 1983

where do you live:
> QC

DESCRIBE YOUR:

wallet:
- black - mom gave it to me just last weeek... my first matino wallet heheh

your eyes
- brown.. sabi nila...

toothbrush:
- white and purple

jewelry worn daily:
- never without earings.... and my pink watch.

cell phone:
- Sony Ericsson

pillow cover right now:
- waaa i dont know... ill check tonight.. im too sleepy to appreciate my sheets...

car:
- have no car yet. care to buy me one?

bedroom:
- riot...

sunglasses:
- di ako nagsu-sunglass eh.. still conemplating on buying one...

shampoo:
- i seldom shampoo.. i use conditioner...now im using palmolive hehe.. bango eh

cologne and/or perfume:
- Be Delicious

CD in stereo right now:
- no cds.. only mp3s hehehe

piercings:
- ears ... two piercing on each...

what you are wearing now?
- shirt, pants and rubber shoes

what will you do after this?
- kakaen... 130 pa lunch ko ... =)

if you could get away with it and murder anyone who would it be:
- i have a list.. wait ill read it aloud..

person and/or people you wish you could see right now.
- secret....

some of your favorite movies:
- serendipity......

something you’re looking forward to in the coming week:
- inuman! ^_^

something you just ate:
- kakafinish ko lang ng hash brown weeeee.. need to diet na pala huhuh

something you are deathly afraid of:
- what lies beyond....

do you like candles:
- nyak! nope.....

do you like bars:
- bars?? which one? bka kulungan yan.. chocolate bars... ay nako d na tinatanong yan!

do you like the taste of blood:
- waaa kadiri!!!!

do you believe in love:
- yes. i believe ill find the real one someday!

do you believe in love at first sight:
- NO way!

Are you in love?
- errr... i think so.. confused ako eh....

do you believe in heaven:
- yes

do you believe in God:
- yes

Do you have a tattoo?
- none. used to have henna...

can you eat with chopsticks:
- kapag di gutom ok lang .. pero kapag im dead hungry.. spoon and fork nga waiter!!!!! =)

what are some of your favorite candies:
- POLO and mentos

Favorite Soda:
- im not into soda.. iced tea ako...

what’s something you wish you could understand better:
- is there someone meant for me?

If you could turn back time, what would you change?
- no regrets.. mistakes are life's little gems... they'll make u shine in the end...

If given a million dollars what’s one thing you would buy?
- hm.. foooooood! ^^

Can you cook?
- yes.

are you shy around your crush:
- haha. uu. ill be impossibly quiet kapag katabi ko un.

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boring sa office... inaantok ako... -_-

Currently watching this video....

Hmmm.. I thought I'd only be watching.... sniff sniff...... Pakshet tlaga. ^__^

And then I saw it.....

Yeah. You''ll never know who this baby is.. and please DONT dare ask me.


(a big grin..... )

Yes I still bleed...

Have you ever had that feeling that you thought you’re okay but then when reality strikes you, you wake up still bleeding? Have you ever pretended to be happy to cover up all the pain you feel? That’s exactly how I feel. After 2 long years of being broken, I still choose to shatter myself into pieces than to move on. Alam ko na I need to move on, but my heart tells the opposite. Im so tired and so sick feeling this pain. Kung meron lang sana gamot na pwede ko inumin para mamanhid na ang nararamdaman ko ginawa ko na and maybe I would overdose myself pa. It’s a curse na paulit ulit na lang. Kaya now Im so scared of loving again. Ive been with two rebound relationships and believe me, it was the hardest thing to do. The hardest for me was to end a relationship because I no longer know where the relationship is heading to. I am still holding on to the past kaya I cant make the most out of the relationships Ive been to. I just wish I would find the “ONE”. Napapagod na din ako. =)

~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~ Share ko lang itong song:

All Behind Us Now

Hey, I'm so sorry
that it didn't work the way
that we'd always planned
Hey, I'm so sorry
that you went away
and somehow didn't understand

We pretended for so many years, but now
its time wash away my tears

CHORUS

Cause/And it's all behind us now
cause we've learned to live somehow without
each other
And its easy to see, it ain't never
gonna be the same again

And its all behind us now
cause we found a way to live without
each other
And in time we'll have to see
If its ever gonna be that way again
ohh......

...
Hey, I'm so sorry
that I couldn't find the words
that might have made you stay
and hey, it's so funny
how we both can say the same thing in a
different way

...
We pretended for so many years,
but now its over baby
and so are my tears

repeat chorus

...
I was holdin' out for far too long
But now I finally found where I belong

repeat chorus to fade...